In my opinion, accountability is the most important tool we have as humans to become better versions of ourselves. It provides the checks and balances to keep our egos humble; gives us the opportunity to become self-aware, to learn from our mistakes, and to say we are sorry. Probably why Executive Coaches have become so popular now? The Coaches provide an objective voice to hold the Executives accountable.
Interviews with VC funded young companies that failed go: I lost my way – I moved to ego metrics instead of cash flow metrics; Our salaries were too high with high expenses, so we ran out of money. The list goes on. Were they told the truth? Where was their expert to hold them accountable? Were their egos so high they didn’t listen?
I see it in project management all the time. PM’s who are afraid to tell the truth to their Sponsors. Fear is the number one enemy of accountability.
I just moved to Seattle. Let go of the past, let go of the mistakes, let go of the mishaps, let go of all of it – except the good friends, of course. Starting fresh.
While moving sucks – completely – I do feel a lot better. There is a shift in your mind about changing everything. You get humbled as you get lost finding your way around a new city. You remind yourself how important friendships are as you smile more at neighbors thinking ‘They could be a friend’. You must ask for help on a regular basis. It changes how you see the world.
Instead of the limitations, real and imaginary, that you saw lived within, now the world is alive and real.
It’s scary, takes time, makes you let of stuff you don’t need any longer…but the benefits of being lighter, freer, more open, more vulnerable, and the potential for happiness…priceless.
What if? What if your team became ‘thoughtful, committed citizens’ to your vision? What if your team felt so strongly about their work – with you as their motivator – that they enjoyed coming to work? What if they found the ability to recover from the inevitable pitfalls to truly succeed – success being feeling happy with their work life?
We find happiness in our life (work and professional) when it matters to us. We succeed because we found something that matters to us. We change the world a little step at a time when it matters to us.
Matter in your own life. Become ‘thoughtful, committed citizens’ to your own world and the big world (even your office) will get a little bit better – or maybe even a whole lot better.
Making the impossible feasible, then successful
There’s this mad rush every morning. People struggle to get out of bed, get ready, and race to work in rush hour traffic with millions of other people in every developed country. They arrive at their building and sit in their cube where there’s a long list of things to do – some worthwhile and most not. They don’t run the company, they aren’t in a corner office, and they never will be. It’s ‘just a paycheck’.
A few musings on a Tuesday morning:
- Own it! Why are you here just for the paycheck? Make it better or move on.
- Stop whining! Make it better or move on.
- There are soo many emails – unless you need documentation, email is the WORST form of communication. Talk to people – engage with people. Make it better or move on.
- Give a damn about your life and Make it better!
You are in charge of your life. Make it better – Make it matter – Make it count.
Making the Impossible Feasible, then Successful
WHAT?!?!?!? How does that help me? I’m working on slowing down now and I am finally seeing the results – it works! There are two things at play here:
One is how your brain works when it’s overwhelmed – it’s ineffective. Effectiveness comes from being focused and relaxed. Are you focused and relaxed when you’re overwhelmed? Yeah, neither am I.
The second thing at play is what are you working on? How do you know what’s the most important thing you should be doing? For me, I do a brain dump of everything I need to do ON PAPER. As I get it all out of my head, I categorize – family, house, boss, project, marketing, etc. Then, I look at 3 criteria for each – urgency, importance, and impact. This gets to the heart of why you need to slow down. These three criteria will find the assumptions you’re making about what is really a priority. But most importantly, it allows you to use your intuition on where you need to focus. (this is the gushy part: this is slowing down, this is living intentionally, this is mindfulness)
From here – you can make real decisions. What is the most urgent/important/impactful thing you need to be doing now, today, this week? What can you delegate? Once you answer those questions for yourself, you can get soo much done on your list. You’re free from anxiety as you work because you KNOW you’re doing the right thing.
Try it – it can’t hurt and it just might help you find that illusive balance.
Making the Impossible Feasible, then Successful