What if it mattered?

 mead quote

What if? What if your team became ‘thoughtful, committed citizens’ to your vision? What if your team felt so strongly about their work – with you as their motivator – that they enjoyed coming to work? What if they found the ability to recover from the inevitable pitfalls to truly succeed – success being feeling happy with their work life?

We find happiness in our life (work and professional) when it matters to us.  We succeed because we found something that matters to us.  We change the world a little step at a time when it matters to us.

Matter in your own life.  Become ‘thoughtful, committed citizens’ to your own world and the big world (even your office) will get a little bit better – or maybe even a whole lot better.

Karenwiley@appliedteamdynamics.com

Making the impossible feasible, then successful

 

Complacency / Apathy / Boredom

bored in the office

There’s this mad rush every morning.  People struggle to get out of bed, get ready, and race to work in rush hour traffic with millions of other people in every developed country.  They arrive at their building and sit in their cube where there’s a long list of things to do – some worthwhile and most not.  They don’t run the company, they aren’t in a corner office, and they never will be.  It’s ‘just a paycheck’.

A few musings on a Tuesday morning:

  • Own it! Why are you here just for the paycheck? Make it better or move on.
  • Stop whining! Make it better or move on.
  • There are soo many emails – unless you need documentation, email is the WORST form of communication. Talk to people – engage with people.  Make it better or move on.
  • Give a damn about your life and Make it better!

You are in charge of your life.  Make it better – Make it matter – Make it count.

karenwiley@appliedteamdynamics.com

Making the Impossible Feasible, then Successful

Too much to do? Slow Down!

WHAT?!?!?!?  How does that help me?  I’m working on slowing down now and I am finally seeing the results – it works!  There are two things at play here:

One is how your brain works when it’s overwhelmed – it’s ineffective. Effectiveness comes from being focused and relaxed.  Are you focused and relaxed when you’re overwhelmed? Yeah, neither am I.

The second thing at play is what are you working on? How do you know what’s the most important thing you should be doing?  For me, I do a brain dump of everything I need to do ON PAPER.  As I get it all out of my head, I categorize – family, house, boss, project, marketing, etc.  Then, I look at 3 criteria for each – urgency, importance, and impact.  This gets to the heart of why you need to slow down.   These three criteria will find the assumptions you’re making about what is really a priority.  But most importantly, it allows you to use your intuition on where you need to focus.  (this is the gushy part: this is slowing down, this is living intentionally, this is mindfulness)

From here – you can make real decisions.  What is the most urgent/important/impactful thing you need to be doing now, today, this week? What can you delegate?  Once you answer those questions for yourself, you can get soo much done on your list.  You’re free from anxiety as you work because you KNOW you’re doing the right thing. 

Try it – it can’t hurt and it just might help you find that illusive balance.

karenwiley@appliedteamdynamics.com

Making the Impossible Feasible, then Successful

What is team work anyway?

brainstorm imageGetting a project out the door is easy – each person does their part ensuring they aren’t called out as a problem and everyone looks good.  Isn’t project management about team work? NO.

Let’s look at a family and their camping vacation.  Wife packed the food and clothes; Husband packed the gear; Kids packed the games. Overall goal – have fun.  But, everyone has their own agenda and their job matched it – Wife wanted their needs met, Husband wanted to have fun, and the Kids didn’t want to be bored.  That’s a great project and the goal was most likely met…easy, peasy and NOT what teamwork is. Each person worked individually toward a common goal.

Same family, same vacation – tragedy strikes.  On the drive, lightning starts a fire and the highway is blocked.  People are stuck with construction ‘jersey walls’ on both sides.  The winds shift suddenly and the fire heads towards the cars.   300 cars: all kinds of people – old, young, babies, disabled, and pets. Everyone must get out and get to the nearby lake to be safe.  Tweens work together to get the pets.  Women get the mobile elderly, talking calmly to ease their fears – they work with the moms to get the little ones and their critical stuff gathered.  Men work together to carry the disabled and the very slow. Everyone contributes where their strengths lie, and agendas are woven together.   THIS is teamwork.

Brainstorming events are fabulous team work events when individuals speak to their strengths.  If people shared their ideas/their strengths in every endeavor and if they were heard with openness, then our agendas would be woven together, and a better solution would be created.

This is possible.  I’ve seen it and I’ve created it.

karenwiley@appliedteamdynamics.com

Making the Impossible Feasible, then Successful

 

(forgive all gender generalizations in this narrative)

Bullies In the Office

I have had three true bullies in my career – all women. Each situation was different, and each woman was a bully for different reasons and in different ways.  Only one of them was my direct manager.  All made my life miserable and difficult despite my attempts at trying to make things better – part of my job as Project Manager and part of my personality.  Despite every Lifetime movie showing that bullies can be ‘turned around’ – that’s not true for the office where you have no insight into their personal world where the damage is being created.  Forgive me my HR friends, there’s nothing you have done in any of these situations – for the same reason.

Bullying is one of those toxic situations with no way out – like narcissism.  So, what DO you do?  The internet is filled with tactics to help you survive.  But, I think the real answer lies in looking in the mirror and deciding what you want to do with your life. Forget the bully – What is in your best interest?  Do you like what you’re doing? My guess, what you want to do is hard to do.  There are kids, spouses, money, or knowledge in the way.   Most likely there’s fear too.  Change is scary, but change is our only option.

Twins looked at each other in the womb and say “It’s so scary out there.  It doesn’t matter that I can barely move – it’s safe here.”

karenwiley@appliedteamdynamics.com

Making the Impossible Feasible, then Successful